To many men, setting up a baby registry, shopping for bottles and diapers and sheets and cribs and bouncers and… you get the idea…. can sound like an option that simply sounds overwhelming and like a pretty big waste of time. My wife and I tackled this project last week, and, I’ll admit, it was really overwhelming at first.
After getting over the initial shock of “oh my god why are there so many different types of bottles,” I managed to calm myself down and embrace this special time with my wife. Guys, this is a BIG DEAL! Going and registering for the items that will be surrounding your little nugget of joy is incredibly special. Instead of staring at the mass wall of bottles and binkies (which seems extensively larger than it should) I focused on what these items mean.
For instance, that swaddling blanket isn’t anything special. But it’s what my daughter will be snuggled up in at night as she sleeps, and what she’ll be wearing when I pick her up to soothe her and kiss her forehead. That stroller (which like the bottles, there are way too many of) is not just an over glorified chair with wheels, but is something that will allow my wife and I to take our daughter places; something that will provide the mobility for my daughter to explore everything around her. It’s where she’ll sit when we go to the park; it’s where she’ll see clouds and trees and birds.
Focusing on the fact that we are not just laboring to chose the right item, but choosing these blankets and lamps and sheets that will play supporting roles in my daughter’s first experiences is absolutely thrilling. So, soon-to-be fathers, learn to embrace this task. Embrace it with an open heart, and imagine the memories that you and your baby making partner are creating for yourselves and the experiences you are creating for your child. It’s an incredibly special time, and it flies by. Hold on to it.